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In March of this year, I was in Capetown on a long-desired trip to South Africa. My daughter texted me. “Stevie Wonder is going to be in concert in London in July,” she said. “It might be my last chance to see him live (her first too).” I’m not sure why she thought that, but it didn’t seem strange to me at the time. Maybe because I’d lost several people I was attached to in the preceding months. “Do you want to go?” “Shall I get tickets?”  

It struck me as such a wild idea. “Yes,” I said.

Every part of me fired thrilling at such a spontaneous leap. Her brother signed on too, and she planned to take her four-year-old son, who inspired the idea.  He’d come home from school with a harmonica, excited to play it for her. She, in turn, introduced him to Stevie Wonder’s music, including Fingertips, to which he danced his heart out, then pleaded “Take me to see him, mommy. Please.” There began her search for Stevie’s concerts. But moments after my sign on, she and I realized that massive bodies in Hyde Park and prolonged standing would not work for my grandson. Days later, my daughter invited her godmother, my dear friend, unaware at the time that the concert was on my girlfriend’s birthday.  My daughter wanted to share the joy of this wild, beautiful thing we were going to do because of the major challenges my girlfriend had faced in recent months. Spending time with my adult children, one in her 40’s the other in his 30’s, both leading busy lives, along with my girlfriend, held appreciable space in the sparkle of this untamed thing.

And then there was Stevie, accompanied on stage by two of his back up sistah singers, his body hefty now.

I experienced a flash of unsteadiness about him but it left me, not to return. There I stood, privileged to be with three of my beloved family members amidst a swelling of humanity, 65,000 strong, the kind of setting I usually avoid. Sweet Honey and the Rock, and Regina Carter, the exceptions before Stevie, and still, far from this scale. My girlfriend had tied up her African locks after I complained about being hit in the face with them as she turned her head side to side her arm in the air, her hand circling as she sang with abandon the lyrics to nearly every song the D.J. played between Lionel Richie, special guest, and Stevie.

But there is nothing like beholding an artist perform live.

Feeling and taking in Stevie’s tenderness, his musical genius and loving spirit, his voice clipped at the edges but still his, his slamming band and back up singers — all moving through me, poignant as the touch of Grace. Moving through us. I turned to look at my daughter, moving her head, her eyes closed, her lips in a sublime smile. My son’s eyes were fixed straight ahead, his pleasure revealed in the upturned edges of his lips. At one point, a Black woman Brit standing near me said, “He doesn’t look well,” referring to Stevie. I did not doubt her, though I didn’t see what she saw.  Stevie just kept giving, song after song for two hours, moving on his own from piano to keyboard to slide guitar, with one short DJ break, Stevie remaining on stage. He even validated “the bullshit” in our world, the need for change. Then, as we stood undaunted in the drizzle that had begun, he shared that he needs a kidney, that he has a donor, and will do three more concerts then “take a break.” Worry rolled up, how long will it take for him to do the three concerts? Should they come first?

As Stevie said at one point, “I can’t do all these songs,” reminding me of just how prolific he’s been.  I hoped he’d sing Ribbon in the Sky.  But as we eased out of Hyde Park that night I realized Stevie is a Ribbon in the Sky, and that going with wild things, near or far from home, can be so nourishing of the soul.

Pilgrimage to Montgomery, Alabama

I walk from my hotel to the National Memorial for Peace and Justice, what I most often call the Lynching Memorial.  It is a few blocks and turns uphill on a mid-afternoon weekday.  It seems like Indian summer, as the sun fires down, but maybe it’s an ordinary deep South, mid-October day. Flowers line the walkway into what reveals itself to be the size of a park encircling the actual exhibit. There is great care evident in the ardent green grass, the manicure of the grounds, the clean uncluttered space, and the quiet.  I know almost instantly that I have entered sacred space.

I did not bring my weighty Nikon 35 mm as I planned.  I have my eye and my cell phone camera.

My eyes behold slab after slab hanging above me, organized by State, by counties, engraved with names and dates of death.  Columns and rows stretch ahead of me, suspended from on high the length of the four, open sides of the structure.  The list of names on some slabs is very long, telling me the terror in those counties moved especially thick through the lungs of my People there.  Even sadder than seeing that multiple family members were hanged in a county is the unknown appearing again and again sandwiched between those named.  It’s as though they have been doubly disappeared from the face of the earth.

I stand still, acknowledging the lives, the fault lines cut through families and communities by this macabre murdering.  I stand in a mud of sorrow and a rain of gratitude, the Memorial and my presence a testimony that these lives mattered.  When I eventually turn right along the next section, there is a wall of water flowing down, the strength of its softness holding me alongside the hanging rectangles that continue.

College age-looking Black males and females at the Memorial and the Legacy Museum stand ready to provide information.  They are well informed and friendly. I take joy in their presence and knowledge, and that EJI has seen to provide employment and historical awareness to them.

EJI is institution building and witnessing the atrocities of racism that go denied and hushed. On this last day of Kwanzaa, of Imani (Faith), I wish us all more Imani in what we and our communities can do. A pilgrimage to Montgomery, for one.  Ashe.

 

Headed South, Roots That Will Always Be

I’m headed south this weekend, to the deep south of Atlanta and Tuskegee, where I spent the first thirteen years of my life.  It is Tuskegee’s homecoming and I’m going. Skegee we love you love you Skegee we love you love you, love you in the springtime and the fall.  Skeegee we love you love you Skegee we love you love you, love you best of all.

You do not forget such words, such times in the football stadium stands, rocking forward and back in rows, side to side.  A-men, A-men, A-men, Amen Amen. And staccato, this is section #1 #1 #1, this is section #1 #1 #1 where the hell is #2?  (another group) This is section #2 #2 #2, this is section #2 #2 #2 where the hell is #3? And on. You do not forget the floats, the band, the drum major of the parade preceding the game.  You do not lose your roots unless visited by brain injury. You may deny or abandon them, but I for one will always cherish the southern Blackness of mine.

Except for one of my good male friends, I have not seen any of my Tuskegee classmates since high school days. My mom decided to move us north, the summer of my graduation from 8th grade. It was like social death. So those first years I negotiated my way back to Tuskegee at Christmas and in the summer to see and party with my friends. Over the years, my close male friend has stayed in touch with all of us who graduated Chambliss Children’s House together. He returns for Tuskegee’s homecoming every year, though he lives in California.  He’s never failed to let me know what weekend it is, keeping hope alive that I’d make it. And now I am.

Joy. Joy.

But there will be pain too.  I am also going to see the Lynching Memorial and The Legacy Museum:  From Enslavement to Incarceration, both in Montgomery, Alabama.  When I was growing up, my Mom and I took a 30 minute drive to Montgomery from time to time to shop for clothes, boycotting the White stores in Tuskegee.  Not that they had any clothing retail worth walking into. But there in Montgomery, we encountered the Colored and White water faucets and the saleswoman with the drawl who said “Thank you Johnnie” to my mother, a familiarity that served up White supremacy.

I will bear witness now. To the magnitude of the suffering, the sacrificed, the funnels of loss, that I already cannot hold, that we have survived.  My ancestors are not forgotten, the road is not forsaken.  I will give thanks for them and Bryan Stevenson, the founder of EJI, which has institutionalized these remembrances.  They will sear.

In the blue-black of that fire, my heart will raise a river, then deliver me back to the work.

Aretha

My dear sista Aretha, I so mourn your transition.  Song by song I play, tribute by tribute I read.  I grieve in sorrow and glory. Daily, my tears run for the poignant and profound touch of you upon us.  The pain and tenderness in your loving, soul baring voice. The ferocious clarity of timbre about what we — women, Black folks, and anyone deserve in relationships.  Respect.   The actions you took in its name for you and for us.  I soar, reading that you insisted on being paid up front, cash money.  Go on sista, I say!  Go on me! I swell, reading you offered to put up Angela Davis’ bail, back in the day.  I think you all kept that down low, understandably, because I never heard tell, and I followed Angela and George Jackson at the time.

I Say a Little Prayer For You my sista, as you join the ancestral spirits, that you know the magnitude of your gifts delivered here.  That you rejoice in knowing they will be here for all time, all generations.

As the weeks go by I will drink from and cry to the deep well of songs you bequeathed us.  I will sing along with some, their words imprinted in my body, remembering the places and people that accompanied them. Others, I will hear for the first time.

My dear Aretha, I run over with the majesty of you, and  I Don’t Want to Lose this Dream either.

Thank you for raising it up, holding it down.

Boundaries and Shamelessness

Boundaries are a key theme of oppression.  They can be taken for granted by those in visibly privileged identities.  It is presumed they will be respected.  If not, the right to reinforce them directly or through agencies of control is assumed and acted upon.  For those of us visibly among the marginalized, our boundaries are tissue paper, to be trampled on at the discretion of the empowered.  This has been playing out forever and today.  The now established borders of the U.S. are held with sanctity because they were established by the ancestors of White men and held by their offspring.  The violation of the boundaries of African and Indigenous land and people to fashion this territory matter not.  The violaters claim to be the violated, the upholders of law.  But it’s plain to see who is being assaulted and traumatized, as Brown people’s children are taken away, with no care, no system of ensuring reunification. It is clear who are the takers, that everything is for their taking, their elevation, their rewriting, the stomping of their boots. And I see no shame.

President ’45’ is only the pus head, because the infection is widespread among our government representatives — silence while children are poisoned in Flint, former DEA agents now on pharmaceutical payrolls, former DEA folks turned draftee(s) of legislation to hamstring prosecution of pharmaceutical companies that pushed opioids like a goldrush, lobbies for corporations that want more freedom to poison our water, air, earth, to control what beans get planted, to keep us from knowing what food is genetically modified, to flood us with guns. Money, money, money, money — above all else.  I believe what I see, no shame among them.

This is what I want to hear from those galloping proud with no integrity, no courage to stand against callousness and dehumanization.  Speak of your shamelessness.  Of when there’s only you and the moon, in the quiet of night, how it is to be a shell of a human being.

In the meantime, I will honor no shame visited upon me by the shameful. I will continue to be inspired by Bryan Stevenson, whose Just Mercy, I am reading, and many others, whose souls are so loving and fierce. I will find my way past tears to act for the vulnerable families seeking freedom here from terror, only to be snatched up in terror’s new clutches.

Savannah and “The Weeping Time”

I’m soon off on a family trip to Savannah, Georgia.  I’ve never been there before, but have heard it’s beautiful, similar to Charleston, and a former port where Africans who survived the Middle Passage were delivered.  When I google Savannah for things to do, there is no mention of this port as a gateway to slavery.  Among the suggested top ten things to do, nothing related to slavery appears.  I must google Savannah and slavery.  That is where I find reference to a 2014 article in the Atlantic detailing one of the largest, if not the largest, auction of enslaved men, women and children in the U.S.  It happened in 1859 in Savannah.  It was known as The Weeping Time, and it is evident who named it so.

It is said to have taken place over two days of a weekend, and through it all, the sky drenched the earth.  In 2008, this  race course where it happened, two miles away from the center of Savannah, was commemorated with a plaque.  I plan to see it. Advertisements for the auction said 440 enslaved people would be up for bid.  Records say 436 human beings were sold.  As mules, intrusively examined before hand.

Knowing about The Weeping Time I feel that much more held by Bryan Stevenson, the Black attorney and author of Just Mercy, who is marking every location where an African-American body hung mutilated, from a tree. In the surrounds, faces and voices of hatred rejoicing.  But this will not be the last word, image or feeling.  We, the community of the beloved, will witness these involuntary sacrifices with love and sorrow.

The Weeping Time  takes me to the Trail of Tears and to tusks piled for transit, severed from their left behind mothers and fathers. Takes me to tsunamis we have found a tree limb to hold on to, or have succumbed, our bodies bloated, lifeless floats.

I honor this legacy holding both the sorrow and the beauty of what my ancestors made possible, sacrifices I dare not fail to treasure.  April in Savannah, 80 plus degrees warm, friendly sidewalks that beckon, the joy of family togetherness, my grandson’s first visit to a zoo.  Respite taking. Gratitude making.  I am alive, and my children and grandchild(ren) will go on, embodying the hopes and dreams spun by my ancestors, the thread well-kept, and golden.

Accountability: Hard to Get, But We Must Insist, Persist

Accountability. We hear this word repeatedly in the public arena. At minimum, it means bearing responsibility for personal and institutional actions that harm others, by way of a penalty and/or reparations to those harmed, or if killed, their family members. Ideally, it means owning one’s perpetration as well.

Yet time and again, we are faced with institutions, and the empowered people in them, acting to shield perpetrators from taking responsibility. Whether we look at the Catholic Church, the prosecution of police officers who murder the unarmed, or Michigan State University, we see that the powerful ignore, deny-lie about the reports and evidence of assaults on human beings whose lives are cheapened. Whose lives are so trivialized that whatever morality there may be institutionally and personally goes on override. What matters to the empowered is the perpetuation of an image. What matters is that contracts don’t dry up because of bad publicity, that the institution incurs no stain, loses no athlete who drives the money train to the institution, experiences no shame.

The bodies of children, females, Black, Brown, gay and trans people have no boundaries to be respected. These are the actions that repeat. Even as words proclaiming equity, liberty and justice for all, and God-fearing, fill mission statements, speeches, prayers, ads and conversations-light.

Empowered by “Me too,” 160 young women have given voice in Court as to the impact of Dr. Nasser’s sexual molestation. They broke open the sham of Michigan State’s dismissal of allegations of young women years earlier, based on their in-house review.  These women crumbled the University walls sealing off the truth and understand all too well that the problem is not confined to Dr. Nasser. The booting of the President of Michigan State is an easy, though appropriate start to accountability. All those who laid bricks, who took the words of Nasser’s cohort of physicians rather than those of the female students must be held accountable too.

And what about the kind of accountability that requires those who knowingly abandon victims to predators to sit with the spiritual vacancy within them? Can we expect that?

What we know for sure is that Frederick Douglas had it right. Power accedes to nothing but demand.

Surviving this Age of ’45’: A Mental and Physical Health Issue Too

The Age of ’45’ is a traumatic assault on all of us who have lived, breathed, worked and bled for social justice. By that I mean, the desire for all of humanity to be recognized and valued, to occupy the center. The desire for systems of domination to be dismantled and for the travesties they have inflicted to be owned and cared about, such that reparations and healing can occur. Yes, many of us have become even more determined in our anti-oppression efforts, some have become active in a way like never before, but it is also true that move after move of ’45’ and all those who support him can create profound grief and rage that can disable us in moments and weigh heavily. We cannot underestimate this. Continue reading “Surviving this Age of ’45’: A Mental and Physical Health Issue Too”